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5 Ways To Get Rid Of Your Envy: Are you jealous of your friends or the people around you? Cosmo gives you five ways to get over your inggit. Posted on February 24, 2010 by Claire Betita-Samson
Sometimes you can’t help wanting what you don’t have, but like that Rolling Stones song goes, you can’t always get what you want. Don’t let your envy get the best of you. Here are five things that will help you get over your pagka-inggitera.
- Stop it, ASAP. “Halt as soon as you become aware of your envy,” advises psychologist George Bishop, Ph.D. “Do not, on impulse, make actions or adopt attitudes that work against yourself.”
- Focus on your own unique qualities. Make the most of what you have, and enjoy it! Learn to like what you have. And, believe in yourself. “A solid belief in one’s own abilities increased life satisfaction by 40 per cent,” says David Niven, Ph.D., psychologist and author of 100 Simple Secrets of Being Happy.
- Extend your comparison. “When we feel envious, we often concentrate only on one aspect of ourselves,” explains Bishop. You may feel envious of your friend who’s now working abroad, living in a foreign city, and earning quadruple your salary. What you don’t know is that she may actually be lonely and overworked—and that you’re actually better off.
- Spend time with the person you envy. Yes, you read right. Go on over to the “enemy.” This way, you get to see the whole picture and may find out that there is less to envy than what you originally perceived. “By associating with those we envy, we come to see the whole of their lives, not just the parts we covet,” says Bishop. “We might discover that they have flaws and weaknesses elsewhere.”
- Turn off the TV. “Watching too much TV can triple our hunger for more possessions, while reducing our personal contentment by 5 per cent for every hour a day we watch,” says Niven.
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